So you and your mates came to Brighton. You’ve got one amiable but randy gay guy, one semi-party mood lesbian, one “hag” and one weary organiser. What to do?!
First of all, if you’ve ever travelled in a group you know that as much as you all love each other, splitting up through-out the day is a good idea. It can be fun to shop together or do a beach barbeque but don’t be afraid to split up. If your mates are single, they probably came to Brighton with ulterior motives. And rightfully so!
If your going clubbing, you’ll have plenty of places to choose from. Most of the clubs in Brighton are mixed so you can start out the night together to get a little buzzed and dance before pursuing alternative paths.
The Queen’s Arm’s in Kemptown is laid back place to start. If you are in Brighton mid-week take advatange of the unlimited drinks bands on some nights. The girls or “hag” will enjoy the atmosphere/entertainment/flirt while men can feast their eyes on the delectable bar staff, who are very cute and flirt with guys who are less agressively “scene” than in some other venues.
I’ve also found Legends Club on the bottom floor to be a good place for a mixed group. This club is below the popular Legends Bar. There is a live DJ on some nights and really amazing strobe lighting. You can start out there and then leave the male in your party to cruise until the wee-hours of the morning. Head over to the lady-centric R-Bar or the Marlborough after you’ve gotten your drink on to meet some hot ladies for some dirty dancing of your own. If you aren’t looking, you’ll be happier in a mixed venue and specifying this will save your evening.
Keeping all this in mind, I think that club Revenge on Thursday, Friday or Sat night has something for every one. If your token gay male gets bored, next door is Vavoom which from what I’ve seen has some of the cutest boys partying there.
In my experience, whatever group you travel with there always seems to dominant personalities. If you have a power imbalance in your group, it is a good idea to plan your trip on the way to prevent clashing. I know one gay guy who was dragged to a lesbian beach holiday, planned as surprise for his birthday! That is insane. Don’t assume your friends want to do what you want to do!
My best friend Michael and I partied together recently. We started out at Queens Arms and then headed to Legends where he stayed and I went home giving him my keys. Everyone was happy.
It’s all about communication, seperation and being upfront. You can make a (re)mixed holiday work..it’s just about planning!